The Kissing Drum

The Kissing Drum

Long ago, every village or city, regardless of its size or importance, had a unique tradition: the Kissing Drum. A designated individual, chosen at random, would serve as the keeper of the drum, tasked with beating it at various times. This role could fall to anyone—a ten-year-old child, an eighty-year-old woman, or anyone in between. Age or status didn’t matter. At some point, everyone had the opportunity to become the guardian of the kissing drum, serving for a few months before passing the responsibility on to the next person.

The Concept

The keeper would proudly strike the drum whenever the moment felt right—perhaps twice a day, a few times a week, or even just once a month. At the sound, people would pause whatever they were doing, step out of their homes, and reconnect with one another. They’d share a conversation, exchange a warm handshake, or, more often than you'd expect, embrace total strangers in heartfelt hugs that bridged the gap between them.

The Effect

"They are beating the kissing drum! They are beating the kissing drum!" the crowds would cheer enthusiastically. The news spread like wildfire, filling the air with joy and love. The contagious happiness was almost impossible to ignore. Yet, not everyone shared in the excitement. A few disliked it and tried to escape, but even in their retreat, they couldn’t avoid catching a small spark of its magic. Along the way, someone would always call out to them with a cheerful voice: "A lovely day to you, and all the best!"—often leaving the reluctant ones with a subtle, unintentional smile. Or was it just a trick of the light?

Peacemaker

There was a unique beauty in the days when the drum fell silent. In the absence of its rhythmic beat, the quietness made people yearn for the sound of the kissing drum. Whenever conflict arose, tempers flared, or unnecessary suffering unfolded, they would say, "I wish the kissing drum would beat again." Not because it solved every problem, but because its presence reminded everyone of what truly mattered.

The Best Medicine

In challenging moments of treatment, some doctors began introducing the concept of the "Kissing Drum" to connect with their patients on a deeper level. They would gently ask, "Would you like to hear the Kissing Drum?" This simple question allowed them to step beyond their formal role as a doctor and engage as a compassionate fellow human being—listening intently to their patients' stories, desires, and heartfelt longings.

Touching Lives, One Beat at a Time

In classrooms, teachers and students came together to create their own version of the drum, using it as a meaningful way to begin the day with kindness, connection, and understanding. It became a tool to foster a sense of community, allowing everyone to feel seen and heard. In workplaces, the "Kissing Drum" sparked a transformation, bringing people closer and ensuring no one felt left out. Stress and tension melted away before they could grow, as employees shared in the simple act of beating the drum—a powerful symbol of trust, unity, and appreciation. Workplaces were transformed into supportive sanctuaries, reminiscent of the warmth and comfort of a loving family.

The Beginning

How did it all begin? Some say it started at a wedding ceremony. A couple had asked their seven-year-old nephew to play a drum just before the vicar proclaimed, "You may now kiss the bride." Everything went according to plan—until the boy decided not to stop drumming. And why would he? The guests erupted in laughter and cheers. For the rest of the day, every time the drumbeat echoed through the air, people paused whatever they were doing—dancing, singing, or drinking—to kiss the person next to them. And just like that, a tradition was born.

Others believe the custom emerged as a celebration of victory after a war. As returning soldiers marched into town, some, as a playful gesture, began kissing random girls to the rhythm of a drum. The scene was so heartwarming and joyous that it became a cherished practice, carried on to this very day.

Beloved by Everyone

The true origin of the Kissing Drum remains a mystery. Yet, its impact resonated deeply throughout the community, becoming a cherished tradition that brought joy to all. There was something uniquely magical about hearing the singular village or town kissing drum echo through the streets—especially when it was your turn to strike it and step into the vibrant heart of the celebration.

Embrace a Fresh Start

The rhythmic pulse of the drum felt like the heartbeat of renewal—infusing life with fresh hope, gentle love, and a sense of possibility. After all, who doesn’t need a little revival of spirit every now and then? It made kindness, compassion, and connection a natural part of everyday life, accessible to everyone.

Imagine the beauty of bringing back the tradition of the Kissing Drum!

Martine - de bloemdenker